Throughout
the earth the female has and continues to suffer the abuse of men
and the abuse of societies that have not clearly understood the
extreme importance and tremendous value of the female.
In many societies when a female child is born there
is great disappointment and the female is looked down upon as
someone so much less than the male, which leads to abuse, the lack
of proper care, education, and cultivation of her gifts and talents,
and lack of appreciation to Almighty (God) Allah for the gift of
women.
The Holy Qur�an teaches us that both male and
female have the same essence or come from the essence or being that
is Allah, the All Wise God. He has given both male and female
complimentary natures which, if acted on properly help each mate to
attain to fulfillment, perfect peace, and full development or
perfection.
The disrespect of women is the reason that the earth
and the world is in the condition that it is in. There cannot be a
new world except that there is a new and better understanding of the
female, which will give us (men) a clearer understanding of self and
above all a clearer understanding of Allah (God). In the Bible,
Allah (God) declares, "Behold, I make all things new." The
Honorable Elijah Muhammad has taught us that we cannot bring in a
new world except that we accept a new idea that will give us a new
way of thinking and that new way of thinking based on an idea and
word that comes directly from the Supreme Being will give us His
Sight. We need to see life, creation and Allah (God) as He sees
Himself and sees His creation. If we can begin to perceive reality
as Allah (God) perceives it, then, and only then will we treat Allah
(God) and His creatures as they ought to be treated.
It is written in the Holy Qur�an, Surah 2, verse
138, "(We take) Allah�s (God�s) colour, and who is better
than Allah at colouring, and we are His worshippers." Since it
is the light of the sun which gives all things their color, then, we
who follow the Light (Truth) sent down by Allah (God) begin to see
or perceive reality as Allah (God) perceives it. We take His
Colouring, which is His View.
What is Allah�s (God�s) view of the female? She
is the manifestation of His attribute of mercy to the world. She is
undeserved kindness to us, for, through her we are extended through
the generations. It is only through her that we live again, and
again, and again. It is only through her that we continue to move
toward the true perfection that Allah (God) desires for His
creation. She is the cornerstone of the family and therefore is
critical in the whole process of nation and world building.
Allah (God) speaks to us in the Holy Qur�an saying
that, "we should reverence the womb that bore us."
According to Random House Dictionary, reverence is, "a
feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe, veneration; a
gesture indicative of deep respect; an obeisance, a bow, or
curtsy."
I repeat, we must reverence the womb that bore us.
Since the womb of our mother is sacred, then, this teaches us that
the womb of every female is also sacred, for it is from her womb
that all the Scientists, Prophets, Sages, Messengers, Kings, Rulers
and Gods have come and will come.
According to Random House Dictionary, sacred
is, "devoted to some deity or to some religious purpose;
consecrated; entitled to veneration or religious respect by
association with divinity or divine things; holy; regarded with
reverence; secured against violation, infringement etc; properly
immune from violence, interference, etc." How many women see
themselves and their wombs as sacred? If the womb is sacred, then
the passageway through which the seed of life enters the womb is
also sacred.
In the Bible, St. John, Chapter 10, verse 9, Jesus
says, "I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be
saved, and shall go in and out, and find pasture." Jesus is to
Allah (God) as the passageway to the womb. Jesus is the Eternal Door
to Allah (God). Therefore, as Jesus is sacred so is the passageway
to the womb also sacred, because it is the eternal door to the womb.
That which is sacred must be safe and not violated.
Women all over the earth, due to an improper view of self have
violated themselves and allowed men and society to violate them.
It is unthinkable that a person of righteous bearing
would go into a mosque, synagogue, church, or cloister and profane
that which is sacred. Any person who violates the sacredness of the
house of Allah (God) is considered uncivilized, savage or a heathen.
We know it is improper to violate the sacred house of Allah (God),
and, as Muslims we are exhorted by Allah (God) to protect all houses
where Allah�s (God�s) name is remembered. How much more sacred
is the womb of our mothers and the wombs of our female children and
the wombs of the females in our society? How much more protection
should be placed on the female? How much more should she and we
guard her chastity? How much more should we be taught and encouraged
not to violate the sacredness of the channel that leads to the
sacred chamber where Allah (God) Himself works with women to bring
about the answers or solutions to all human problems?
From this day forward, everyone who reads this
article is responsible to act in accord with its truth. We must
never mistreat women, abuse women, or beat our wives. We must treat
women with the greatest of respect and honor believing that they are
sacred. The female believing that she is sacred should never allow
herself to be violated, disrespected, and dishonored and must never
violate and dishonor herself. If the female will see herself as
sacred and, if we, the males, will see our females as sacred, then,
perhaps we can reverse criminal tendencies in our children and bring
forth from this sacred chamber called womb, children in the image of
Allah (God); children made like the Great Prophets, Sages, Kings and
Rulers of righteous bearing.
Prophet Muhammad gave us the criterion to judge the
best of men. He said, "The best of you is he who is kindest to
his mother and his wife."
This criterion should not only apply to our mothers
and wives, but, to all our female children as we move toward basic
nation building through the institution of marriage.
The process of marriage begins first with a natural
attraction to some physical characteristics of the male and the
female which please each other. This natural attraction then leads
to a desire to be closer to that person whom we are attracted to,
which leads to communication to get to know each other beyond the
physical points of attraction.
Premarital sex is forbidden
Among the righteous, those of high moral values,
premarital sex is forbidden. In this world premarital sex is the
order of the day and anyone who forbids premarital sex is looked at
as archaic, old fashioned, and not thinking in the best interest of
the individuals. However, fifty percent of all marriages in America
end up in divorce. Therefore, we need to take a careful look at the
approach to marriage and weigh it by the standard given to us by
Allah (God), the Best Knower, through His revelation of the
scriptures that are among every people.
Premarital sex is discouraged among the righteous,
because it interferes with the pursuit of knowledge of the parties
who are attracted to each other or who must determine whether this
attraction that has led to communication will give us a sure
knowledge that this is the mate that they are willing to devote
their entire lives to. Sex is powerful. It is a natural hunger in
the male and the female even as the desire for food and water.
This desire for sexual expression if fulfilled
before adequate knowledge of the individuals is gained clouds the
mind and disallows us to make the best judgment that we are capable
of making. Sexual expression is so powerful that it can cloud our
minds from seeing anything but the pleasure that we derive from
sexual expression. Then, the participants do not enter into a
marriage contract with a sober mind. When we are drunk from the
passion of the fulfillment of pleasure this impedes our ability to
make proper judgment. A drunk driver with faulty judgment can end up
being a menace to society. Drunkenness impairs judgment. Therefore,
we are asked not to drink and drive. Allah (God) however, demands
that we do not drink for in all things good judgment and proper
decisions are what bring blessings to our life. We are the sum total
of the decisions that we make. Bad decisions lead to the destruction
of the life force. Good decisions lead to fulfillment of the aim of
life. Most marriages are made on the basis of sex and therefore,
when the sex drive diminishes there is nothing of substance to hold
the marriage together, because it was made from a physical, rather
than a spiritual desire.
Among the righteous courtship is chaperoned. This is
done to keep the parties who are attracted to each other from
entering into premarital sex, which then stops the process of
courtship. In the word courtship is the word court. By definition we
mean a place where justice is administered and a place where the
process of finding the truth which forms the basis of justice and
judgment.
When two people are courting they are bringing
evidence to either support their intention to be engaged, or
evidence that they should look in other directions. This process of
finding out as much as we can about each other is necessary in
forming good and proper judgment.
The individuals are the jury that must render a
decision and the individuals must become the judges that ultimately
make the decision that he or she is the right one for me. Cross
examination is a part of court procedure, which allows direct
testimony to be challenged to see if the persons are telling the
truth, for it is only truth that will permit us to make good
judgment. The more truth we know about each other, our
characteristics, ways, strengths and weaknesses, it is the more
right we can be in making a decision if we should become engaged to
be married or not.